Why Impactful Conversations May Not Always Feel Impactful

There’s this saying that “your perspective is your reality.”

It makes sense. And the implicit message is that our reality is different than other people’s reality because we have a different perspective.

Knowing this is helpful. There was a study done that looked at friendships, particularly close friendships. I forget who to credit for the study so I’m only going to loosely refer to it.

But the researchers took people and asked them who was their best friend and then they would go ask that person about the friendship. And there were several times where the person said, “Oh, I wouldn’t have guessed that I was their best-friend.”

That’s weird, right? But our perspective for relationships is OUR reality, not someone else’s.

This same thing happens with conversations. We may have a conversation we don’t think twice about but the other person thinks about it all day. There could be a one-liner we drop that we really want to resound with the someone yet they just remember how you stumbled on the word “apostrophe.”

I still remember being in 12th grade and this guy looking at me in Norman, Oklahoma and telling me “YOU WILL THRIVE.” I felt that deep in my big heart. I currently feel that as I reflect. Thank you, sir.

Impact is weird and conversations are unpredictable so ENJOY THE MOMENT.